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Rules or No Rules?
03-02-08
Rules and behavior patterns. Oh, the very joy of fantasizing about them. Unfortunately, while rules are the foothold for your well educated diamond of beauty and obedience, they truly are the disciplinarians worst and most fearsome enemy.
Nothing is worse than an unenforced, un unenforcable, rule. It will both kill the confidence of your young lady as well as your charisma (and eventually her respect) as her Lord and Master. So, fellow gentleman Masters, please be wise and most importantly, control yourself in this area.
Most experienced disciplinarians have seen it all before. She must be sexually available at all times, she must await me kneeling by the door when I come home, she must do ......... you name it. Unfortunately the result of many such rules is that they are unpractical, counterproductive to her motivation and - probably most importantly - BORING! And boredom is what kills many a promising relationship. It may sound exciting to have her ask for permission, every time she needs to visit the bathroom. The actual result of this however is that many a time you, disciplinarian, will not be around to grant permission, it will bore you and you will have to check continuously of she does not cheat. Even with one such rule, this becomes an increasingly nagging duty for you, your attention level will drop probably after a few days and the whole thing will become a drag. That is not what you want.
So, can I not have rules? Yes of course you can, but think behavior pattern rather than rule. This is quite easily explained with a few examples.
* Quite a few disciplinarians will value a certain way, in which his young lady dresses.
These might either be colour patterns, certain items she must wear or certain items that should be left out. If this is what you want, make it easy on yourself.
If you prefer to see her dressed in skirts and dresses, simply remove trousers, pants and other such items from her wardrobe.
But do bear in mind that a wardrobe with only mini skirts may be rather impractical in winter or during office hours.
So make sure to add items that - within the context of your preferences - are practical as well.
In the event you prefer her to be without underwear all the time, this is likely to become impractical (for example during her period) but is is entirely feasible to keep one or two pairs of knickers under lock and key so she can ask for permission to wear them if and when she feels she needs to.
* Another example. Many disciplinarians would like to see their young lady cut down on habits, such as smoking. This is frequently done by having her ask permission, whenever she wants to light a cigarette. This again soon becomes boring. Much more effective is to simply limit the number of cigarettes she can smoke during a day or week and provide her with exactly that number, while keeping any others under lock and key. At the same time, you may want to make it clear exactly when she is and is not allowed to smoke, for example she may not smoke when she is around you, or may smoke, but not in the house. This again will make your life easier and the situation will become a lot simpler to manage.
* One of the most powerful ways to control the behavior pattern of your young lady is through her ability to spend money (something that should be dealt with anyway, since ladies in general have a tendency to over-spend). There are two ways to deal with this in an effective and easy to manage way. One is to obtain a specific credit card for her and only allow her the use of this. The weekly credit card statement will be an excellent item for you to check her spending pattern and whenever necessary ask for clarification. The other, somewhat more laborious, way is to provide her with an exact weekly budget in cash, for which she must account.
Management by exception
What you, fellow disciplinarian, will want to do is called "management by exception". In other words, create a situation where behavior patterns are logical and natural and any exception stands out quickly. If she is to use a certain type of make up only, you can easily and quickly spot offenses and deal with them. If she has a clear budget, unauthorized spending is clear and easily dealt with. In other words, by all means create a situation that is absolutely clear to your property and easy to manage on yourself.
Rules and patterns should be clear, enforcable and open to one explanation only. Anything else will only cause confusion. You do not want your protegée to have to deal with interpretation. THAT is your area. Hers is to be obedient and clear rules will help her greatly.
And another helpful hint: make it clear that offenses will be dealt with, but do not set standard punishments for offenses. The reasons for these are these:
* You do not want to create a "pay off" situation, in other words, create a situation where your protegée can pre-calculate the price for her offense. If you do so, you will only create a situation where - in many cases - she will simply break a rule and accept the consequences if breaking the rule is appealing enough and - in her mind - the result of breaking the rule weighs up against the potential price she has to pay. Do you see the point? By pre-setting punishments all you do is put a price tag on offenses, thus making the offense more attractive, rather than less. Like in Disneyland, the attraction will have a price.
* Offenses should always be placed in context. Let me use an example again. Eating for comfort is a problem, many ladies have. Let us assume the standing rule is: no chocolate, unless permission has been granted. Now, if your young lady resorts to this forbidden fruit because her sugar levels were low, that is still an offense but not as serious as that same offense, but committed because she felt stressed. Hence the same offense - because of the reasoning behind it - calls for a different type and intensity of punishment.
Finally this: individual rules should contribute to the overall plan - the end goal you want to achieve. In the early stages of the education especially, you will to have very few rules, but at the same time you will want to see these rules obeyed, thus getting her acquainted with the fact that there are rules and that she is supposed to obey these. So you want to opt for simple, yet effective rules and you will want to explain their purpose. At a much later stage in the education the young, now much better trained, lady with a much better understanding of the situation, will be able to make judgment calls and in many situation will act in the way, she knows and understands her Lord and Master would want her to act.
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